How to Respond When a Loved One Calls Your Faith "Toxic" | with Alisa Childers
How to Respond When a Loved One Calls Your Faith "Toxic" | with Alisa Childers
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@CrossExamined Says:
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@JesusSportsNature Says:
Very interesting. Thank you for the video!
@JesusSportsNature Says:
Can women be pastors and teach the congregation at church?
@MartyMcFly1085 Says:
Can the YouTube community send you guys a do not contact order? It’s really hard not to just hear two insane yet arrogant bigots gabbing about absolute nonsense.
@MrBryan1776 Says:
My wife & I are already off-limits to our grand child, and the birth hasn’t even happened yet. The pain is only going to get worse. What advice did this video offer… ?
@davidzandstra9506 Says:
The Lord your God lies in the back of psalms I will send you angels to protect you God definitely lied Didn’t happen when I was sexually assaulted 5 times raped twice Jesus Christ said call on his name you will be saved Jesus Christ is definitely a liar didn't happen when I was sexually assaulted when I 12 Holy Spirit lies calling himself a comforter I wasn't comforted by the Comforter 3 liars God, Jesus Christ and the Holy Spirit and scripture God is supposed to be the author He definitely has lied You Christianity is a lie
@kimsteinke713 Says:
Y'all should invite some of us real people out here that are trying to tell you the truth that y'all refuse to listen to Jack hibbs Frank Turk Elisa Childers Rosario Butterfield You're hurting the children and you're making big big mistakes but y'all refuse to even listen to other people Y'all are too busy talking Y'all missed the whole commission of Jesus Christ Will y'all haven't missed it yet cuz y'all are technically alive. Y'all should be going back to the Bible Go talk to Richard b Hayes and his son. Go talk to David Gushee. I don't want to talk to nobody else because y'all want to think that you were right and that y'all made these choices that you can't back down from that my friend is the pride that goes before destruction The church has been destroyed because of this pride. The pride that gay children are is taking back taking off that shame that y'all laid upon them and then y'all are gaslighting them by telling them we just want to sin Good God mighty I can almost scream it's so frustrating I'm 63 years old I was born gay still gay. And y'all are wrong.we've already been through conversion therapy and done your circus act over and over when are y'all going to take a look at yourself. We're praying for y'all here in Texas 🏳️‍🌈🙏😇
@berniefynn6623 Says:
roxic,the new in word for the thick who cannot argue, like misogyny
@danh7447 Says:
It is only toxic if you dont want the truth. If they hate me because of my Lord and Savior, then so be it i dont have any problems with that.
@justincameron9661 Says:
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@mashah1085 Says:
What if you have a family member who is a Christian...but doesn't support Donald Trump?
@reaper5454 Says:
Tell them "Well that's not very inclusive"
@markjcrane Says:
What is actually Good in our time is being redefined as bad, toxic or even abusive. What is bad and evil is being redefined as good. Evil thinks all things that are Good are toxic. Evil thinks God is toxic. Evil thinks that reading the Bible is toxic. Evil thinks the name of Jesus is toxic. Evil thinks families are toxic. Evil thinks women are toxic. Evil thinks men are toxic. Evil thinks fathers protecting their families are toxic. As Evil gets a stronger hold on the people around us Christians following God are being defined as a Hate group. Which is extremely ironic considering we follow God the source of Love. Ephesians 6:12 - King James Version 12 For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places. God is Good for that reason, His kindness, forgiveness, mercy and many other reasons I choose to serve Him. For that reason I'm not willing to placate to this fallen world's delusions.
@tammyschilling5362 Says:
I really feel that one thing that is left out of these conversations is the truth of free will and sin. We say "recognize the wounds behind that". I do not argue that SOMETIMES there are wounds, but often enough it's just that people are using their free will to sin and don't want anyone pinging their conscience. We must be careful not to psychologize everything and miss the obvious.
@jesusreturning3003 Says:
Good advice.. but also dont forget God is also seperating the sheep from the goats, He warned us this will happen in the last days. That mother will turn against daughter and fatger agaunst son, and brother against brother and in laws, etc... all because they chose not to want to believe in the Messiah and have eternal life. Jesus said he didnt come to bring peace but a sword, and his deviding ppl who want him against ppl who do not want him. He doesnt want others to also contaminate the vessels he has been working on and moulding into his image, God is a healous god snd he will protrct his own, rejection is sometimes gods way of protecting you from falling away. We can still love these ppl from a distance and pray for them, and if they are Gods children, they will have an awakening, repent, and come bsck to you. If they are not his children you may not see them again, these are the days of mourning, keep praying for the lost, only God knows who will get into the ark before it closes. We are now living in the book of revelation, the seals are opening, things will gwt worse :( Continue to keep Jesus first and hang onto his hem no mstter who leaves ur life, eternity is a long time to go down the wrong path. Broad is the way to destruction and many go down it, narrow is the way to life, and only few find it.
@user-nu3kx5gq6f Says:
I also think we should ask "Even if such qnd such is toxic, what's wrong with being toxic according to their worldview?"
@goodmorningsundaymorning4533 Says:
What about the "toxic positivity" in the churches now. Talk about @buse.
@wet-read Says:
Christianity *is* toxic.
@Derek_Baumgartner Says:
Thanks for this.
@RLBays Says:
Why isn’t the gut reaction to ask oneself “why do they think my beliefs are toxic?”
@suzanneflowers2230 Says:
We must be patient, pray, and give people the space they need to work out their thoughts. At the same time, we have to objectively look at ourselves and ask the Lord to show us how to proceed.
@justingary5322 Says:
Alisa Childers is exactly right. I've been watching Cross Examined ministry videos since 2021 but this is awesome 😎. Happy Pentecost/Resurrection Season everyone He's Alive forevermore AMEN 🙏 ❤️ 👏.This has nothing to do with the video but please listen if you want to otherwise leave it alone and ignore it. Hello my name is Justin and I'm a Christian and Apologist but I'm also a college graduate. I'm not a closed minded Theist as I have nothing against Atheists or unbelievers as I speak to them often to understand their reasons for unbelief but we as Christians are convinced of God's Existence due to many real factors). I'm not trying to convert anyone or convince anyone to become Christians as that's The Holy Spirit's job to help people believe but only explain why I believe in Jesus Christ. There's actually evidence of God's Existence in Christianity. First of all there's proof that Jesus of Nazareth existed in history since the writings of Tacitus, Josephus Flavius, Pliny the younger and other historical documents prove that He was living two thousand years ago that even scholars both religious and Atheists agree with historically speaking but not that He's The Divine Son of God because obviously they don't. I'm going to give you historical and archeological evidence for God's Existence as The Scriptures have prophecies that predate the events recorded in them by several millennia including Matthew, Hosea and Zechariah which prophesy accurately of the people of Israel becoming a nation again after over 1900 years of being scattered around the nations since the destruction of the Temple in Jerusalem in 70 A.D. spoken of by Christ in Matthew 23:29-24:3 and returning to their homeland after The Holocaust with Jerusalem as their capital in 1948 exactly as Jesus The Christ said. The prophets including Daniel spoke of the time where several world empires would arise and fall including the Babylonian kingdom, Medes and Persians, Roman Empire, and Saladin and the Muslims which went in consecutive order for the past few millennia. The people of Israel becoming a nation after The Holocaust in 1948 (ironically the melting point of gold as God compares Israel to gold that's tested in fire in Zechariah 13:8 and Jeremiah 16:15) exactly how Jesus The Christ said would happen since God us everything to come in The Scriptures and not just because people were working towards as Atheists claim which are impossible for any regular man to predict. Just before anyone says Christianity is a white man's religion made to oppress blacks during slavery you obviously aren't aware that the first Christians were Jews in The Middle East and that Christianity just like any religion can be used by evil and corrupt people to oppress others but you forget that the first Abolitionists/Civil Rights activists were Christians who sought to abolish slavery, racism, segregation, injustice and prejudice throughout American history. Jesus The Christ loves you enough not to give you what we all deserve which is God's Wrath by His Own Blood. Charles Darwin didn't originally come up with The Theory of Evolution over 200 years ago as it is mentioned in the writings of Ancient Greeks who believed in Demons that gave knowledge to philosophers. Evolution makes no sense when nothing has evolved after thousands of years of human history and supposedly the first creature came from primordial sludge several millions of years ago funny how they won't believe that God an Eternal Almighty Spirit Being created us from the Earth) which came from a supermassive expansion of matter at high temperature that inexplicably created everything in the known universe that supposedly came from nothing billions of years ago. How did the organs evolve before there were bones, skin, substance and how did any creatures see before eyes evolved? I've studied evolution and abiogenesis in the past and read Darwin's " Origin of The Species" and I'm not convinced of macro Evolutionary biology whereas I accept micro Evolution like speciation and adaptation but not macro Evolution because there's no evidence of it nor clear observable examples of it where living creatures evolve into other kinds of species plus the fact that fossils don't show evidence of evolution and genetic entropy rules out evolution. The question begs how did two genders evolve from a common ancestor with a perfectly hospitable and sustainable environment with breathable oxygen and resources to survive on inexplicably? Atheists have the burden of proof to explain how everything came to be and why our existence is possible without the Existence of God from an godless perspective just as Christians have to provide evidence of God's Existence and the validity of His Word. Evolution requires life to already exist in order to take any effect in living organisms so it doesn't account for the existence of Life and reality. Also evolution is impossible because it goes against The Law of entropy and the second Law of thermodynamics because evolution makes things better whereas nothing continues to get better but decays and turns to absolute destruction in the end. Mark Ridley an Evolutionist said "No evolutionist whether gradualist or punctuationist uses the fossil record as evidence in favor of The Theory of Darwinian Evolution as opposed to special Creation". God's Existence is made perfectly known and observable in the universe as demonstrated in His Handiwork in the intelligently designed manner that Creation was made, human consciences and consciousness historical and archaeological evidence of God's Word being valid history, fulfillment of Bible Prophecies God in His Holiness and Righteousness could give us what we deserve in Hell for our since but He's merciful to give us free will to choose to accept or reject His gift of salvation by grace through faith in His Son Jesus. I don't mean this is any condescending manner but if you'd like to discuss The Scriptures with me or have me listen to your view on anything my instagram account is Savage Christian Kombatant
@zacharyevans8152 Says:
The Truth is toxic. Example: a doctor telling his patient he needs to lose weight. Psychiatrist tell his patient he has anger issues. Christ telling us we all fall short of the glory of God. Grow up. Life is hard no matter what. I can personally attest to having faith and love in Christ is positively and profoundly life changing.
@oscargr_ Says:
Being told you cannot live a sinful lifestyle and remain a member of the church, isn't toxic, its just perceived toxicity. No wonder the church is as empty as it is. Only those who believe they live sinless lifes remain.
@oscargr_ Says:
So one week you're pointing out how Christianity is gaining momentum as new atheism lost steam. And this week you think deconstruction gains momentum and you are prosecuted.. Did you like it more when you were not persecuted but your arguments were shredded by new Atheism?
@ShahAlam-sz3by Says:
thus did We assign to every prophet an enemy from among the sinners; your Lord is sufficient as a guide and a helper. — al-Furqan 25:31 Remember: The EARLY Christians, such as the Ebionites, were not the trinitarians we mostly see today. In the first two centuries after Jesus there were many, many groups not in agreement; these can be summarized in three groupings: 1. the Pauline Christians. Followers of the teachings of Paul, as described above. 2. the Gnostic Christians. These were a group who tried to seek deep symbolic knowledge from Jesus' teachings and who became very obscure and secretive. 3. the Judaic Christians. These were Jews of the time who believed in Jesus as another prophet in the lineage of Jewish prophets; they followed his teachings and kept to kosher dietary rules and Sabbath schedules etc. Because the Pauline Christians later gained the ear of the emperor Constantine - and converted him - it was their corrupted beliefs that became dominant and which came down through the ages as the Catholic Christian Church we see today. How's that phrase go? "Is good to be king!" Almost all of the protestant sects existent today are branches off of this same poisoned tree. Their doctrines became the legal and obligatory dogma of Christians after the first Ecumenical Council, also known as the Council of Nicea, in 325 CE. But the Ebionites and other "Judaic Christians" were clearly the Muslims of their day, just as were the faithful followers of every prophet of God. I invite you all to islam
@ShahAlam-sz3by Says:
Surah al imran ayat 83 Do they now seek a religion other than prescribed by Allah even though all that is in the heavens and the earth is in submission to Him – willing or unwillingly – and to Him all shall return?. Prophet muhammad (ﷺ) use to cry for his ummat a lot he was always worried about his ummat that may allah save my ummat from hellfire. I will be quoting a very beautiful hadees separately. He is full of concern for us: There has come to you a Messenger from among yourselves. Grievous to him is what you suffer; full of concern for you, to the believers kind and compassionate. (Holy Quran 9:128) He prayed for us in every salah: A’ishah narrates “Once, when I saw the Prophet in a good mood, I said to him: “O Messenger of Allah! Supplicate to Allah for me!” So, he said: “O Allah! Forgive ‘A’ishah her past sins and her future sins, the sins which she has hidden and the sins which have been made apparent.” So I began smiling, to the point that my head fell into the lap of the Messenger of Allah out of joy. The Messenger of Allah said to me: “Does my supplication make you happy?” I replied: “And how can your supplication not make me happy?” He then said: “By Allah, it is the supplication that I make for my Ummah in every prayer.” (Al Bazzaar, Hasan) He saved his final dua for us: “Allah has given one Dua to every single prophet and every single messenger, that He has guaranteed that He will respond to. And every single prophet has used up this Dua for himself in this world, except for me. I have saved it and I have not used it and I will not use it in this life. I have kept it for my Ummah and I will use it for them on the Day of Judgement. And my Dua will be, O Allah, forgive my entire Ummah.” (Sahih Muslim) He wanted to meet us: Anas ibn Malik reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “I wish I could meet my brothers.” The Prophet’s companions said, “Are we not your brothers?” The Prophet said, “You are my companions, but my brothers are those who have faith in me although they never saw me.” (Musnad Aḥmad 12169) I invite you to the religion of islam. Allah made us from semen, then nurtured us, gave us form, gave us life. To Allah we belong and to Allah we shall return. Allah has 99 names of which one is al ghafoor and Ar-Raheem meaning one who forgives. Allah will forgive all our sins if we repent even if they are as great as foam in sea. But he will not forgive shirk(associating partner with Allah). I rest my case here and invite to the gold of islam. In case you have queries feel free to ask I will answer them to the best of my knowledge إِنْ شَاءَ ٱللَّٰهُ,
@lawrenceeason8007 Says:
Unchecked religion, a theocracy, can be extremely toxic. Thank goodness we have a secular government and constitution
@albaraka7519 Says:
Well does your religious faith involve the supporting of slavery, bigotry, and other harmful and horrible things? Then yes it is toxic.
@phoenixanimations5233 Says:
Christianity is toxic for one reason. Promoting suffering. Jesus had to suffer and die, his disciples had to suffer and die and apparently we have to be ready to suffer and die for Jesus. Very positive message. I seen on my own eyes how this brainwashing have impact on my family.
@KennyNeilson Says:
My name is Ed Childers. I wonder if I am related to alisa. I live in Lewisburg Tennessee. On Kenny Nelson Rd. 1467.
@rosemarie5558 Says:
Using "abuse" as an excuse for everything has gone too far. Their problem is loving their own sin. We need to call it what it is and stop allowing them to draw attention away from the real problem, their own sin.
@truthgiver8286 Says:
There is no way to respond when someone calls your faith toxic because it is. You can not demonstrate that there is any truth in what you peddle to kids.
@jimisoulman6021 Says:
I am so thankful for my deconstruction period. It allowed me to start thinking about the Bible on my own terms. And rebuilding afterwards I have my own thoughts rather than the same as everyone else and a definite relationship with the Lord that is dynamic and growing. Blessings to you all in Jesus mighty name. 🙏
@phav1832 Says:
Jesus himself was rejected and accused of being toxic . . . how did he react? He kept loving and forgiving. That being said, nothing is more painful than losing the trust of friends and loved ones, especially ones own children. It's part of our experience though. I find comfort in knowing that the Savior experienced all these things and ultimately will make all things right.
@mthiessen134 Says:
The beautiful thing about the Fathers love is that He loves each person so much that He will not force anyone to spend eternity with Him. Even though that’s what He created us for
@juliecantina8479 Says:
In all things and every situation seek The Lord, that is the absolute answer to everything in life! In prayer, fasting, and in the holy scriptures, and The Spirit of God will lead us into all truth!
@godsgospelgirl Says:
This is such gracious and helpful advice.
@pazu8728 Says:
Gone through spiritual abuses after 16 years serving faithfully, giving faithfully in a church, I do not want anyone to tell me/family in our face that my family will "go to hell", "God is going to punish my family", or "you were never a believer." Christ is not the problem, those so call "little christs" are the problem. Who did Jesus rebuke most in the NT. Not those who were down trodden, but those who were on a high horse, who believe they knew about God more than everybody. They were the well-read religious group that Jesus name them as vipers, white wash tombs.
@godschosenwarriorpodcast5913 Says:
The problem is that we often ignore Matthew 13, which gives us a complete breakdown of the Wheat (Christians) and the Tares (Counterfeit Christians). We completely ignore the fact that Satan has planted Tares in the church and we operate as if everyone that goes to church is a Christian. This is false. Most of us could do a better job of walking in the spirit as opposed to adhering to the doctrine of men and vain philosophy. The church is plagued with tradition. Jesus made it clear that he hates tradition in Matthew 15, and by our tradition, we make the word of God have NO EFFECT. This is why the church is having problems and seemly not effective on the masses.
@bumperxx1 Says:
Explain the gaysss in church and should the church ⛪️ have gay pastors ?
@Servant_of_Christ Says:
I think we found everybody, I've spoken to thousands of people and not one has come to believe. So I've stopped talking, we got everyone so what's the point. Maybe I'm suposed to do somthing else, maybe there is no point to my existence.
@MrAuskiwi101 Says:
Be honest and accept that Christianity has been, is and will continue to be toxic to humanity.
@alexandremuise8889 Says:
Can an American Baptist please define your word "Deconstructing''? It's a word your cultural circle often uses in YouTube. (Asking as a Canadian Wesleyan)
@black-cross Says:
disagree. theres no need for communication. when they're ready they'll call you. continuing communication is for the person calling, not for the other.
@nikorn24 Says:
Just learn to accept the truth
@WillemLuijk Says:
God is good and anyone do evil call good will perish. Amos 3:6, however, says more: Shall a trumpet be blown in the city, and the people not be afraid? Shall there be evil in a city, and the LORD hath not done it ? If God in his all-wise guidance gives you a relationship that does not want contact even though there is love in your heart to that person, it should at least lead us to think that man was received and born in sin. For a born-again person, however, this goes much further. Didn't our Lord Himself speak of abandonment when He hung on the cross? Of that our Holy Communion form says "I for thee since otherwise thou must die eternal death"....
@Ezekiel336-16 Says:
It's only toxic (foolishness) to those who are perishing!
@jeffphelps1355 Says:
Having a loved one who is a anti theist i just show kindness and love atheism produces toxic behavoir toward faith ...i let them display the toxic behavoir and i respond with kind acts and prayer..
@timoloef Says:
The real questions is, WHY do they feel your behavior is toxic? Bothering others with your faith when they're not open to it is -to say the least- annoying. You can't make someone desire G'ds love anyway

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